Why you should never take her to dinner on a first date
It’s unanimous amongst women that if you ask her for dinner on a first date, you’re guaranteed to be unsuccessful. Here’s why:
Navigating the first date is hard. Really hard. Men the world over struggle with the etiquette of a first date; where you should take her, why you should take her there and what time you should meet. It’s unanimous amongst women that if you ask her for dinner on a first date, you’re guaranteed to be unsuccessful. Here’s why:
There’s nothing worse than a clingy man. And if you’re clingy from the outset – i.e. you’ve ask her for dinner on a first date – you’re definitely not a keeper. Harsh, but true. Remember, all girls love a hint of a bad boy, someone that they need to chase a bit, so while it pays to be the first one to get in touch with her and as a result ask her out, you need to leave it at that.
Naturally, you’re going to want to impress, therefore picking the right dinner destination is going to be a minefield. Most girls are high maintenance and if you like her, you’re going to have to work hard at picking a restaurant that will suffice. But then you’re faced with a series of unfortunate events, in no particular order:
What if you get spinach in your teeth? What if she does? It’s so unbelievably awkward, it’s not even worth it.
At this point, you don’t know anything about her eating habits, so it’s really not worth the risk. She could be vegan, she could have some horrendous intolerance that’ll send her into anaphylactic shock or worse. Don’t risk it.
What if you’ve just spent £100+ on a dinner that wasn’t really worth it, for a person you don’t really have any ambition to see again? Drinks are safer and a lot cheaper, too.
Drinks last an hour, two if things are going well. But in some restaurants, it can take an hour before you’ve even got your food, at which point the conversation might have run so dry that you’re going to have to think fast on your feet for a legitimate get out story. Save the long dinner for a second or third date, when you know she’s got good chat and you’ll have enough to take about.
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