Tuesday, 19 September 2017

20 things that make a man a gentleman

“A gentleman is someone who does not what he wants to do, but what he should do.”

Holly Macnaghten

“A gentleman is someone who does not what he wants to do, but what he should do.”
Haruki Murakami – Norwegian Wood

Trends come and go, as do friends and lovers, but one thing that never goes out of fashion is the gentleman. Not the playboy, new-wave ‘gentlemen’ that so many perceive themselves to be, but rather a real, true gentlemen with all the characteristics and accompanying imagery of the protagonist of a Victorian novel.

How do you actually define a ‘gentleman’?

An ever-elusive term in and of itself, there is no one definition – and in all honesty, we’d be lying if we didn’t say that it’s pretty subjective. But attempt it we shall. So, without further ado, here’s a list of 20 things that we believe turns a man into a true gentleman:

1. A gentleman never tells

No gossiping, spreading rumours or running others down – a real gent always protects the integrity of both himself and people around him.

2.  A gentleman knows that anything worth having is worth working hard for

Shortcuts and free rides have no place in a gentleman’s world. You only get what you give, and rightly so.

3. A gentleman knows how to dance

Two left feet is never, ever a good look, and a real gentleman knows it. Learning to dance well is also not that hard.

4. If a woman comes with baggage, a gentleman helps her to unpack it

Being genuinely helpful and non-judgemental is a trait that gets a man far.

5. A gentleman always RSVPs

It’s more than simple courtesy. If there are pending invitations, being thoughtful and responding is only the fair thing to do.

6. A gentleman knows the difference between confidence and arrogance

No one likes to deal with egotists and show-offs. A bit of self-confidence, on the other hand, makes a man come across as strong and admirable.

7. A gentleman is open-minded but firm in his beliefs

Principles are always held onto and respected, whether they’re his own or others’.

8. A gentleman constantly proves that chivalry is not dead

Rather than something that can be turned on and off on a whim, a gentleman accepts that chivalry is more of a way of life.

9. A gentleman ruins his lover’s lipstick, not her mascara

The only tears he should make her cry are those of joy.

10. A gentleman never lies to a woman (unless it’s to surprise her)

A true gent makes it a point to always stay loyal, faithful and honest to his significant other.

11. A gentleman always makes the first move

And his pick-up lines tend to stand out from the rest.

12. A gentleman means what he says and says what he means

No doublespeak, no having to read between the lines – a gentleman is open about his thoughts and feelings all the time.

13. For a lady, a gentleman always offers his seat and opens the door

It’s not a sign that she’s in any way weak; rather, it’s a time-honoured gentlemanly gesture of care and affection.

14. A gentleman never judges

He knows that judging a person does not define who they are, it defines who he is.

15. A gentleman is always well-presented

No matter what company, occasion or top-secret mission.

16. A gentleman has a firm handshake and always makes eye contact

Weak grips and averting gazes are huge no-no’s when one gentleman meets another.

17. A gentleman always offers his coat to a lady

One of the oldest moves in the gentleman’s playbook, sacrificing one’s comfort for that of a lady projects both attentiveness and selflessness.

18. A gentleman knows how to cook

Being able to prepare one good, full meal should be the bare minimum.

19. A gentleman always walks a woman home

Few things show her that you care more than making sure she’s always home safe and sound.

20. A gentleman always offers to pay

I’ve got this” – one of the most important phrases in the gentleman lexicon.


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