5 reasons you’re not getting a date

It can be frustrating when you try and try to secure a date and you still can’t get a girl to go out with you. You might be at a dinner party, you might be on Tinder, or you might be at a bar and the ladies just won’t bat their eyelashes at you and provide a phone number. Don’t worry, we know what’s wrong – here are the five reasons that you’re not getting a date.

YOU COME ON TOO STRONG TOO FAST, Don’t get me wrong, women like being desired – it’s the greatest compliment after all, but just because a lady enjoys your attention and maybe even thinks that you’re cute, it doesn’t mean that you can just get their phone number. It takes several minutes of small talk and a spark to make a lady inclined to provide you with a phone number. Ask for too early and you’ll be swiftly rebuffed.

YOU’RE NOT LEADING AND ENDING THE CONVERSATION, When you’re chatting up a girl you should dictate the conversation and leave her wanting more. Get chatting, make small talk on a subject that you’re comfortable with, make a joke – if she laughs and touches your arm; bang! That’s your cue to go but before you excuse yourself to get back to your friends, ever so casually ask for her number.

YOU’RE BEING A BORE, Either you’re being boorish or boring and it’s resulting in you being rebuffed left, right and centre. You probably don’t realise that you’re being course or not coming across as interesting but being a bore is a major turnoff for women. Try and ask female friends where you’re going wrong with your conversation starters and alter your persona around women you don’t know well.

YOU’RE UNLUCKY , Let’s face it, a lot of life is about luck and you may not have had the best luck in meeting women. You might be going for women that don’t see you as their type or you might have been rebuffed because the girl has a boyfriend. Many women are surprisingly responsive to men that have the courage to strike up conversation with them and ask them out – so keep trying!

YOU’RE NOT TRYING HARD ENOUGH, Some men expect beautiful women just to fall into their lap – quite literally! Obviously this is a flawed attitude to have and you should be prepared to put in effort (a lot of effort). Women are intuitive creatures and they can tell if you’re not really interested in engaging with them. Remember if at first you don’t succeed, try, try again.

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